I am following the Kavanaugh story.
I am in awe at the violence against women in this culture. We tell ourselves that it's equal in our country. That women have it good here. And then a woman tells her story, a painful inconvenient story, about a powerful man. And suddenly, she is getting death threats? Accused of being a political manipulation ploy? Discredited because she doesn't remember how she got to the the party?
The story itself is, sadly, not an uncommon one. And every time someone says...
it doesn't really matter, or
it happened so long ago, or
its her fault somehow, or
why did she wait until now to bring it up...
they are sending the message to men and boys...
that their actions do not really hurt women and girls,
that their violence against a woman or a girl won't have lasting effects
that they won't be held responsible for the harm they are bringing to a human being's life...that it's not really their fault,
that they (the men) don't deserve to have their lives affected by "too much" justice.
Most women have a painful, inconvenient story.
The woman or girl doesn't want to talk about it.
Powerful men do not lay down their power easily.
What is done to one woman affects all women. And thus, all men too. Men are also affected when women are afraid and hurt and accused.
Our political arena is a stage. Dr. Christine Blasey Ford has become a character on our stage. I hold the possibility for her that in her personal life she is currently cocooned by people who love and care for her. That she feels safe and held by the great spirit of life. That as she lets go of control and watches her life changing before her eyes, a new possibility is arising for her.
Destruction and rebirth are the way of the courageous, wild woman.
Sarah Pemberton is a teacher, a writer, and the founder of Write Now!. Sarah lives in Portland, Oregon with her two daughters.